The Warriors Guide to Aging
By Monica Y. Mateo
As some of you might have heard, I created — The Chic Warriors Movement — a chic way to handle the chaos of life. The reason I specifically used the word chic is because it stands for so much more than class and elegance. It’s dealing with life’s lemons with your head held high even when you want to hide under a rock. As a cancer warrior — I can honestly say I know what that feels like.
In my quest for understanding life and how to improve our daily living — I search the web or find documentaries that intrigue me. Lately, I’ve been interested in the dynamics of aging. Aging makes people feel so many different things all at once. When we were younger we wanted to age with every fiber of our being so we could be independent and free from rules and responsibilities. Little did we all know that a new set of rules and responsibilities were waiting for us right around the corner.
Many women are taught to not age and stay forever young physically. So I started to wonder: Why are women banned from the aging process? Why are women cast off as finished, over, dried up, old news, hasta la vista baby, game over, etc? When did we get an expiration date before our time has even come?
It’s hard enough being a women no matter what age you are — society has put a lot of pressure on us to be a certain way in order to be perceived as attractive. But what if instead of ignoring or dreading the aging process — we actually embraced it? What if we even welcomed it into our lives?
So let’s start a list and ladies feel free to add more in the comments!
Ways to Embrace Age:
- Own it. Stop lying about your age and finally own it. No need to repeat birthdays and pretend that you are younger than you truly are. Let’s stop giving our lives less meaning. It’s an honor to continue to blow out candles, darling. So stop pretending that you didn’t EARN that year.
- Dress your age. No, I won’t tell you what to wear because that would be putting you in a little box. We are breaking open that box so please dress in what makes you feel good. But I do recommend dressing your age. There is nothing worse than seeing a gorgeous woman trying to look like a teenager. Dressing with class, elegance, and style will highlight how YOUTHFUL you actually are and that is timeless.
- Take care of your inside and your outside. We don’t need to be chained to a beauty regime, but I feel fabulous every morning after I put on my Estee Lauder Resilience Lift creme. (Def not getting any endorsements, I just LOVE the product, I promise.) I love the silkiness and smell — it makes me feel like a true woman every morning. I also love taking good care of my skin and it doesn’t mean you are trying to hide your lines and wrinkles. We all put on lotion in order to prevent dry skin so there is nothing wrong with hydrating and loving your face.
- Hydrate and stop those pesky little habits. There is nothing worse than dehydration. Drink tons of water and maybe kick those aging habits to the curb. Those habits will cause premature aging so love yourself enough to quit.
- Shop for YOU. As we all age, one lesson becomes clear — who cares what people think! It’s the best feeling in the world to finally let go of what people will think of you. Give yourself permission to buy something if it makes you feel good. When you have a killer outfit on, don’t you feel like you can conquer almost anything?
- Stop fighting your age. Don’t wish you were younger, be proud of the time you have lived and what you have achieved. Stop looking in the mirror and lifting your cheeks while watching them fall back down. Your cheeks and eyebrows are where they are ladies. If you want them lifted I recommend only one thing — laugh a lot more. Voila!
- Empower other women. Ever notice the bitter older woman who puts down young gals at the office? Empowered women empower other women. I read that on the internet and it has stuck in my heart since. We must all lift each other up, not down! Jealousy or envy taste very nasty on the palette so don’t give in. Embrace who you are and empower those older and younger than you.
- Travel. See what is out there and live for experiences.
- Forgive your past. Nothing causes a bitter being than holding onto anger. It’s time to let that go. You have lived far too long to continue harboring old guilt, pain, or anger. Please, for your own sake — let that all go.
- Money is not the root of happiness — spend well. When you are younger the value of money is everything. We want to save for a home, save for a vacation, save for our retirement. We value success and moving up the financial ladder. Yes, aspirations and being paid well are important in order to live. However, when older adults are asked what they regret most — it’s not that they didn’t have more money. It’s not the things they didn’t own. It’s the time they didn’t spend with those they love. Spend well — on family, friends, and yourself. Life is beyond money and working long hours.
If you have any you want to add to the list comment below!
Love, peace, and healing, xo!
About the author:
Monica Y. Mateo is a licensed social worker by day and writer/blogger by night. She is currently working on her memoir, The Cancer Warrior, to be published 2017. She is also the founder of The Chic Warriors Movement. A chic way to handle the chaos of life. It is a way to overcome hardships and trauma like a true warrior. It is understanding that life can be challenging, but with the right attitude — can be magnificent. It is the journey to heath and healing!
Monica Y. Mateo is a 7 year survivor of Anaplastic Large Cell Lymphoma ALK+, which taught her that people can change unhealthy patterns and behaviors. She enjoys yoga and practices Buddhism, which has taken her on an adventure of a lifetime.
Disclaimer: MONICAYMATEO.COM is not providing medical advice and this information is not in place of medical advice.